Rant | Let's Just Agree to Disagree

Thursday, July 10, 2014


Some people I know need to remember this.


I do not usually do that type of post where I just lash out my feelings because I am the type of person that don't like to get too personal and share too much "me" simply because I feel uncomfortable doing it and also because I always feel like it burdens people, even with my friends I feel that way. But I am making an exception because I need to express myself and since that person that caused this wrote as an "anonymous" I guess it would only make sense that I post it here.

First of all, I'm all about having different opinions and sharing all of it. This blog is all for that, constructive criticism and all. You have an opinion about an outfit or any other thing that I post in here, you comment, give your advice or any other stuff, I reply and life goes on. That's the point of a blog right.
What I don't get though, is why you would give a suggestion, I would decline it giving my reasons, and then you will feel the need to come back getting all worked up and giving a,b,c arguments as to why I am wrong and you are right! People, we are different!! We all have different opinions, this is how God created us, if we were all the same life would be boring! You can't start judging someone because that person is doing something different than you, or is not doing something that you would want them to do.
You can't start showing up here, giving compliments then being all dramatic and stuff because I don't do what you want.

People decide what to share on their blog because it is THEIR blog. Sometime bloggers ask for suggestions, but at the end of the day they do what they want. I have many interest excluding fashion, but I don't share them all in here because I don't want my blog to be all over the place, I like the way it is now, with outfits, sometimes manis, sometimes tags and other stuff that I've planned for so long but couldn't because of time restriction but that I can finally do because I have more time now.
You can't come in here and blame me for doing my blog the way I want because it is not what you would expect it to be. If you don't like my blog it is okay!!! You don't have to!!! I love it and I have people who do as well, I don't need the whole world to support my choices, I'm very happy with just a few. It's not the first time I receive "anonymous confusion" as I like to call it, and I'm sad to say that I used to be so pissed but now I'm just confused. 

I would like to quote one sentence that particularly made me laugh
"You may wear bright colors but it's the only joyful thing here, besides that your blog is not very interesting, basically most of the time the same stuff. "

Oh. Let me thank you for your "honest" opinion but I am very much happy with my blog and how it is. I am very happy with my "same stuff" and if as you say my blog is not interesting, I don't understand why you not only took the time to come on it (and you like to come often too strangely enough), but (and that's the most shocking part) you took the time to write such a long paragraph as to why I am wrong and why you are right (which you apparently like to do a lot as well... Hum. Strange strange)

I will keep wearing what I want and share what I want on this blog because guess what? It's mine!

I know that you (anonymous not so anonymous) and I will never agree on anything since you have an answer for everything, so let's just agree to disagree.  My blog is not interesting to you, as I said it is okay it doesn't have to be and I don't hold any grudges for that, I just don't understand why the need for drama? Why would you take such a precious time out of your busy (I hope so) schedule to write that? I don't wanna paste all of what you wrote because I don't see a point, but I'd like to ask you to please please please (see? I'm nicely asking) go far away.
Negativity is not allowed in here, in any shape or form.

Now to all my supportive readers/friends, I am grateful to have you, and to all the people that might not like some of the things I post in here but are still respectful enough in their comments, or even don't bother commenting at all, high five to you all :)
To the anon, I hope this big paragraph you wrote help you in your life in any way and please know that this is the last time I will post or reply to your nonsense.

Have a blessed day y'all



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Je ne fait pas souvent ce genre d’articles ou je vide des emotions parce que je suis le genre de personne qui n’aime pas trop rentrer dans les details et partager trop de “moi” tout simplement parce que je ne me sens pas comfortable de le faire et j’ai souvent l’impression que ca derange les gens, meme avec mes amis je me sens pareil. Mais je fais une exception aujourd’hui parce qu’il faut que je m’exprime et vu que la personne qui a cause ca a ecrit de facon “anonyme” je suppose que c’est plus cense si je poste l’article ici.

Tout d’abord je tiens a preciser que je suis totalement en faveur du partage de differentes opinions. Ce blog prone cela, les critiques constructives et tout. Vous avez une opinion par rapport a une tenue ou n’importe quel autre truc que je poste ici, vous commentez, donnez votre opinion ou autre, je donne une reponse et la vie continue. C’est le point d’un blog.

Ce que je comprends moins par contre, c’est pourquoi venir donner une suggestion, et quand je la rejette en donnant mes raisons, revenir tout enerve en donnant a,b,c raisons de pourquoi j’ai tort et pourquoi tu as raison! Les gens, on est different!!! On a tous des opinions differentes, c’est comme ca que Dieu nous a cree, si on etait tous pareil la vie serait ennuyeuse! Tu ne peux pas commencer a juger quelqu’un parce que la personne fait quelque chose de different de ce que tu fais, ou ne fais pas quelque chose que tu voudrais qu’elle fasse.
Tu ne peux pas commencer a te ramener ici, a donner des compliments et apres devenir dramatique parce que je ne fait pas ce que tu veux.


Les gens decident de quoi partager sur leur blog parce que c’est leur blog. Parfois les bloggeuses demandent des idees ou suggestions, mais au final elles font ce qu’elles veulent. J’ai beaucoup d’interets mis-a-part la mode, mais je ne les partage pas tous ici parce que je ne veux pas que mon blog soit un gros fourre-tout, je l’aime bien comme il est actu, avec des tenues, parfois des manis, parfois des tags et autres trucs que j’ai prevu depuis super longtemps mais que je ne faisais pas par manque de temps. Tu ne peux pas venir ici et me blamer parce que je fais mon blog de la maniere que je veux et non comme tu le voudrais. Si tu n’aimes pas mon blog c’est pas grave!! Tu n’as vraiment pas besoin de l’aimer!!! Je l’adore et j’ai des gens qui l’aiment ausi, je n’ai pas besoin que le monde entier supporte mes decisions, je suis suffisamment heureuse avec le peu de personnes qui le font. Ce n’est pas la premiere fois que je recois des “confusions anonyme” comme j’aime les appeler, et meme si c’est triste a dire, avant ca me rendait dingue mais maintenant je suis juste confuse.

Je tiens a citer une phrase qui m’a particulierement fait rire

"You may wear bright colors but it's the only joyful thing here, besides that your blog is not very interesting, basically most of the time the same stuff. "

En gros “Tu portes peut-etre des couleurs vives mais c’est tout ce qui est joyeux ici, a part ca ton blog n’est pas vraiment interessant, en gros la plupart du temps la meme chose

Oh. Laisse moi te remercier pour ton opinion “honnete” mais je suis tres heureuse de mon blog et de la maniere dont il est actu. Je suis tres heureuse avec mes “meme trucs” et si comme tu le dis il n’est pas interessant je ne comprends pas pourquoi non seulement tu as pris le temps de venir ici (et bizarrement tu aimes venir souvent), mais (et c’est le plus chockant) tu as pris le temps d’ecrire un si long paragraphe pour me dire pourquoi j’ai tort et pourquoi tu as raison (un truc que tu aimes aussi faire beaucoup… Hum. Bizarre bizarre)

Je continuerais de porter ce que je veux et partager ce que je veux parce que devine quoi? C’est mon blog!

Je sais que toi (anonyme pas si anonyme) et moi on ne pourra jamais se mettre d’accord sur quoi que ce soit vu que tu as reponse a tout, et donc on va se mettre d’accord sur le fait d’etre en desaccord. Mon blog n’est pas interessant pour toi, comme je l’ai dit c’est pas grave il n’a pas besoin de l’etre et je ne t’en veux pas pour ca, je ne comprends juste pas le besoin de drame? Pourquoi prendre un temps si precieux de ton emploi du temps si surcharge (j’espere) pour ecrire tout ca? Je ne veux pas coller tout ce que tu as ecrit ici parce que je ne vois pas l’utilite, mais je tiens a te demander de s’il te plait s’il te plait (tu vois? Je demande meme gentillement) de partir loin d’ici.

La negativite n’est pas premise ici, peu importe sa forme.


Maintenant pour toutes mes lectrices/abonnees/amies, je suis reconnaissante de vous avoir, et pour toutes les personnes qui parfois peuvent ne pas aimer certains des trucs que je poste ici mais qui sont toujours respecteux dans leur commentaires, ou meme ne prennent pas la peine de commenter, high-five pour vous 
Pour l’anon, j’espere que le gros paragraphe que tu as ecrit t’a aide dans ta vie et faut savoir que c’est la derniere fois que je poste ou que je reponds a tes balivernes.

Passez une agreable journee les gens




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  1. Muy guapa!!
    Genial tu blog.
    Besos mil.

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  2. Well said girl! This is your blog. Ok when we start blogging we immediately put ourself in the hands of all people. It's our blog but it's not private. At the same time I appreciate when replies means something and they are not just a judgement!
    www.bonjourchiara.com
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    1. Thanks doll, I really don't get the need for unnecessary words :/
      xx

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  3. People can be so disrepectual, as you said this is your blog so you can do whatever you want.

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    1. Ikr! If they don't have anything nice to say, they shouldn't say anything at all. Or at least make it constructive, not just plain drama-looking smh

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  4. I like your decision to never respond to such comments again....be strong know that it may still come but comfort yourself with sincere commenter/followers of your blog.
    Your doing a great job dear.
    Hang on and keep shining

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    1. Thank you dear, I know it might still happen (unfortunately) but I'll let that person deal with her bs alone

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  5. coucou Diane je suis vraiment désolé pour cet incident
    parfois les gens sont vraiment irrespectueux et n'ont rien à dire et la plus part du temps ne savent même pas de quoi ils parlent car n'ont pas de blog.
    C'est ton blog tu en fais ce que tu veux et ce qui te plait l'essentiel c'est le partage et c'est ce qu'on recherche toute continue comme çà bisous :D

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    1. Merci ma belle, c'est gentil de ta part!! Bisous

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  6. If they're not feeling your style they shouldn't be on your blog in the first place. I like that you did this post, this is YOUR blog and you have every right to do with it as you please

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    1. Ikr!! That's exactly my point! Why keep coming here if you don't like it? It's pointless!
      Thank you hun xx

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  7. blog is a personal space, so blog whatever u deem fit and make you happy! :)

    xoxo
    mochaccinoland.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks hun, I'll keep doing that :)

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  8. This is the exact same stuff that gets me off. Why bother commenting and leaving your nasty and negative comments on someone's blog, do they know how much work goes into prepping a single blog post? I'm glad you're responding the way you have because that person really needs to find something better to do with their lives other than trying to ruin others peoples' day.
    Your response just goes to show how much of an adult you are and that's why we love you and your blog. You atleast bring colour to my so-called "summer" with your "boring" outfits. People are just jealous.

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    1. I can't even imagine how you would react if I had posted the whole thing haha, that's so sad to be honest but whatever, if it makes her happy.
      And thank you hun, I'll keep posting my "boring" outfits to brighten your days :p :p

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  9. Whatever u do don't let this stop u from the good work u are already doing. Negativity from haters only shows that u surely doing something right init . They can't stand how good u are . Such things nearly stopped me from starting my blog but u know what , I just couldn't care less. Your mature response is definitely the way forward.x

    www.moilesedi.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Thank you hun!!! I'll keep up the work :)

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  10. Diane! You come across as quiet but I could picture you screaming when I was reading this!
    Oh hun, never ever address this person again, or else they win.
    This is your blog, let them go make theirs. It's always the anonymous cowards who have the most to say.
    We've all been there.
    *hugs*

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    1. I just can't stand unnecessary drama haha, but you're right it's not even worth addressing anymore.
      Thank you hun <3

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  11. Fais ce que tu aimes, qui t'aime te suit ma belle ! :-*

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  12. Y'a des gens qui sont assez bizarres hein... Pfff .. Ne t'occupes pas des bla-Bla a 2 balles et do what u like, what u want, that's all!

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    1. Merci ma belle, c'est clair..! Bisous

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I always appreciate the love and support you give with your comments. I read them all and always make sure to answer so you can come check it out if you ask a question for example. Take care! :)

J'apprecie toujours l'amour et le soutien que vous me donnez avec vos commentaires. Je les lis tous et je prends toujours la peine de repondre, vous pouvez donc revenir voir la reponse si vous posez une question par exemple! :)